Therapy Session
Did something new today went to a group therapy session for newly separated and divorced people. I am still thinking about it, but I think it was a positive experience.
It was nice to hear other people from different ages and cultural backgrounds, pretty much going through the same thing I am. One older guy mentioned how tough are mornings and dreams for him. It is the same way with me.
Couple of things I learned:
-it looked like I am way better off than all of these people, so perhaps I should be feeling better sooner
-a person who decided to break up is miles ahead in terms of moving on than the other person, because they had some time to think about it. I think this is defenitly the case with me and her. She thought about it the whole time I was away, so that is why it might seem that she got over it faster
-The most important thing that I learned is that if you keep giving in a relationship without taking care of your own needs, this builds a feeling of resentment and in my case mistrust as well. I think for the past year for sure I was more of a giver and silent about my own desires, as I feared it would spark another conflict. This built in me the feeling of resentment, distance, disconnection and as a result distrust that manifested in my jealousy.
For the future I need to be aware that I got to balance between what I need and she needs, otherwise I won’t be happy and I guess the goal is to be happy!
